Thursday, December 30, 2010

Resolutions.... Why Even Bother?

As the year 2010 comes to an end, people begin to think about thier New Years Resolutions.  Me?  I'm usually the odd person out by confessing that I never make any because I know that I won't keep them.  Sustainable change in behaviour seems to only happen when you want it to, not when you are expected to make a change... like how people will promise changes to be better with the New Year. 

There's something to the resolution.... or else it wouldn't have lasted the generations.  Maybe this year I should take a good look at myself.  Who am I? Who do I want to be? & What is the difference between the two? Do I really want to make te effort to change?  Part of me is saying to just conform and come up with the usual: 1) eat healthy, 2) exercise more, 3) complete my art projects, and 4) work harder on my professional development/continuing education.  But all of those resolutions are not something I could stick to 100%.

This year I have taken steps for myself.  I've spent too many years unhappy with who I am, what I look like and the life that I have been given.  The saddness, disgust and dissatisfaction with myself has no concrete origin... not any that I can think of.  Maybe it's genetic, maybe experiences or maybe it's nuture, probably a combination ... either way... it is.  I do want to be happy.  That is something I want to change. 

5 comments:

Christine said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Hope you'll have a very HAPPY 2011 then, sounds like you deserve it!

No resolutions for me either :)

See you next year.

Christine
http://fancifulvision.blogspot.com

Kayraheart.fashion said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Happy new year..

Pop Champagne said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

happy new year! eat healthier and exercise is my constant struggle!

LoveK said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

...a very good friend of mine went to Nepal recently, took a vow of silence for 10 days and meditated with Buddhist monks for about a month in order to figure out the same things you seem to be struggling with...she came back and said it was one of the hardest things she ever did-silently spend time in her head (of sorts) and think about who she was, what she wanted and how to be happy...in the end she came to realization that happiness, like most things worth having, takes work...in Western societies we are constantly made to believe in instant gratification, this does not equal happiness but a distraction from what truly constitutes it...my point being (in a very long winded way ;-) that I agree with her (and the wise Buddhist monks that taught her) that true happiness is something we are constantly working for and it is only achieved through hard work on our part...
Good luck in 2011...may all of your struggles get easier and your quest for happiness as well...

20 York Street said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I'm sorry I missed this post Sweetie.. I agree with Love K. I think we are (TOO) conditioned to be happy all the time. That if you are not happy then there is something wrong with you and you should work on it - ASAP!

Life is not like that, it's not always happy. I've had my share of very sad times, unhappy times and I wish so this wasn't my life.. but then, I realized that life is just like that. It has ups and downs. Always does.

Coffee/drinks soon?

besos,

ML
Happy, Happy New Year!

20 YORK STREET

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